Keeping Things Spicy in a Long Distance Relationship

theWoman - As theMan has already mentioned, long distance relationships (LDR’s) are both challenging but also potentially very rewarding in that they can lead to the next step – living together/ engagement/marriage etc. There are a few items I’d like to add in terms of what I believe will help keep the spice in the LDR.

Nature of the Beast- Women are more auditory in that we fall in love and thrive more on what is told to us, what we hear, and how we feel. Men on the other hand tend to be more visual and thus can get caught up in a woman’s looks. Seeing as how this is the nature of the male and female sex, in order to be happy in a LDR both men and women should try to cater to these inherent traits.

Thus, a man should complement theWoman and make her feel that they are emotionally close by telling her how great she is, that she’s beautiful etc. Don’t give fake compliments or lie to the woman- rather tell her how you feel and why you think she’s special- believe me, women need to and love to hear this. Other tips to help theWoman feel appreciated and secure in the LDR:

1) Quick email/voicemail – It doesn’t matter what stage of the relationship you’re in to do this and in fact, it’s probably the easiest of the 3 tips. TheMan should send a quick email or leave a short voice mail every once in a while to theWoman saying something as simple as “I was thinking about you”, “I miss you”, or “I couldn’t stop thinking about”.

2) Surprise present- This doesn’t have to be anything huge and can even be a card. Everyone gets junk mail and we toss it out without giving it a second though, but when someone receives a piece of unexpected mail such as an “I miss you card” or a “Thinking of you card” or a stuffed animal it can really make a person’s day.

3) Plan a special night on when you two are together – for example, if you live near a beach take theWoman to the beach for a romantic stroll and do those things that are somewhat corny but make the other person feel special. I promise you that the thought and action will be reciprocated.

Women on the other hand should appeal to theMan visually both when they are together and when they are apart. When theMan and woman are spending time together, the woman should ensure she’s in her best form – meaning, it’s probably not the best time to try a drastic hair cut right before seeing the man. If it doesn’t turn out well you’ll feel terrible and consequently you’ll project that terrible feeling through your outward image. Similarly, I would suggest having the eyebrows waxed (and any other body parts that need waxing), the nails done, and the skin fresh and clean a few days prior to the rendezvous. This way, you’ll look natural when you are together and your body/skin has had a few days to recover from the beauty regimen. If you feel great and confident you’ll look great- and that’s what needs to be ingrained into your guy’s head. Also, if you are going to any romantic dinners it might be nice to up the sex appeal – just to get his blood pumping and to remind him that you are worth the wait. When you are apart- it becomes difficult to project that sexy image through the phone but it’s not impossible! Here are some tips I’ve learned along the way:

1) Never ever ever tell the other person on the phone that you are breaking out, have a skin rash, put on 20 lbs since they last saw you, or have to go get a body part waxed. Although everyone is entitled to being human and thus break out occasionally – you don’t want that image running through your partner’s head.

2) Instant Reminder – If you have a picture of your partner and you at a night out on the town or at another occasion where you look great or feel great, feel free to give him a picture frame with the super-hot picture of yourself in it. Also, try to place it in an area where you know he’s sure to see it. A mental visual is one thing, but a tangible picture can be a friendly reminder.

3) Drop some hints- It never hurts to talk yourself up a BIT. It’s very important not to go over board at this as self-promotion can be a huge turnoff. Rather every once in a while drop hints about something like the fact that you may have bought a new outfit to wear when you see him and that you look great in it or that you’ve been going to the gym (if this is true) and you feel great. Just something that reminds him that you’re taking care of yourself and that you can’t wait for him to see you.