Valentine’s Day in a Long Distance Relationship – Go Bold

theWoman -When it comes to Valentine’s Day in the beginning stages of a LDR the question is whether to be bold or to play it safe.

Definition of going bold: Purchasing or creating a meaningful and thoughtful experience or gift for the other person.

Definition of playing it safe: Purchasing a generic gift (ie, cologne, body lotion for women, candles).

The reason this question only applies to the beginning stages of a LDR is because usually after a few months both people determine whether or not the relationship is meaningful enough to warrant the pros and cons of being long distance – and if the people believe the relationship is meaningful enough then they’ll definitely go bold.

 

When it comes to the beginning stages of an LDR my suggestion is to go bold and here’s why:

You’re already heavily invested – Long distance relationships are inherently intense (see Casual LDR’s) so it only makes sense to go bold for Valentine’s Day. Think about it- if you’re in a LDR you’re probably spending a significant amount of time on the phone or sending emails to the other person and depending on where you live, you are probably also visiting the person every couple of months. This is a huge investment of time and money so given that both people are already making this large of an investment of time and possibly money, doesn’t it make sense to go bold?

Passion for Love – One of the best things that I learned about a long distance relationship was that you don’t have to sacrifice the passion that can be felt in a regular relationship. It’s pretty hard to say or show that you’re passionate about someone with a generic bottle of lotion from The Body Shop or something along those lines. When I receive gifts I want something that shows the other person really thought about what I would like or need. We’ve all received presents that we have either re-gifted or hid in the closet for years and those presents weren’t memorable (at least in a positive way). So if you want a passionate relationship, why not start with this Valentine’s Day and go bold?

Decide whether you’re going to play it safe or go bold. If you’re planning on going bold we’ll have some tips on gifts/experiences that have worked well for us and other LDR couples.